â€œYou mean Iâ€™m doing it to myself?, the leader said.
We were in the middle of an advisory/coaching session and my client had been telling me repeatedly about the difficult situation they found themselves in – and the challenging people they had to deal with.
Yet this was a re-curring theme over the months we had worked together i.e. there was always something or someone annoying them…
If youâ€™re Irish, Darina needs no introduction. But if youâ€™re not letâ€™s just say she is Irelandâ€™s original celebrity chef. And over the last few decades she has written 19 books, created one of the best cookery schools in the world, been a pioneer and ambassador for the slow food movement and a renowned TV chef.
Often we set standards that are too high for a situation and so we experience frustration and disappointment. Other times we set our standards too low and so don’t experience the success or enjoyment we should.
Everyone can be forgiven for falling victim to a â€˜pity partyâ€™, particularly in challenging times. But if I’ve learned anything in my own life and working with leaders, it’s that the right mindset is key to creating miracles.
Indeed England’s Rugby World Cup score against New Zealand could have been higher. But this was a team with a mindset locked onto victory, and an honesty in their performance. They all showed up and backed themselves.