“Sometimes ideas hold us down;
they become heavy anchors that hold the bark of identity fixated in shallow dead water. ” – John O’Donohue
I remember there being a time in my life where I would dread Monday mornings – luckily for me, that is no longer the case.
The morning I’m writing and sending out this email/post is Monday 17th January 2022 – the third Monday of the new year.
Already I’ve heard one radio station proclaim that ‘Blue Monday’ has arrived – the worst day of the year, apparently. Except there’s nothing to back that up. It was an idea originally made up by a travel company as a way to encourage holiday sales.
“The cave you fear to enter, holds the treasure you seek.” ― Joseph Campbell
“I’m not ready to do that.”
So said the experienced entrepreneur to me in response to me challenging them to look in the mirror in relation to some problems they had. So we stopped working together.
They wouldn’t admit it but they were afraid. There’s nothing unusual about that because the truth is that everyone I know experiences fear – albeit in different ways and at different times.
“Without questions, there is no learning.” – W. Edwards Deming
I’m not big on resolutions at the start of a new year.
But what I do enjoy is the symbolism a fresh year represents.
For example:
The opportunity to leave the past behind and start anew.
The closing of one chapter and the beginning of another.
The shedding of perceived limitations and the stepping into something new.
This year I encourage you to imagine the best in your life and for the lives of the people around you. And to step into inspired action in creating it.
“This above all: to thine own self be true, And it must follow, as the night the day, Thou canst not then be false to any man.” – The character Polonius, in Shakespeare’s Hamlet.
A very close friend of mine passed last Wednesday and I’d like to dedicate this weekly post to him.
His name is Derek Young and even though you’ve likely never heard of him it’s possible that his work has or will in the years to come affect your life or that of someone close to you.
In his work life he was a medical device inventor and entrepreneur, helping surgeons all over the world convert their ideas into products or devices that improved patient care.
He was only 51 and even though he did amazing work in the medical world his real legacy will be as a father, husband, brother and friend.
“Forget about finding your passion.
Focus on bringing more passion to everything you do. Then your passion finds you.”
Last week one of the questions I was asked during my AMA webinar was ‘How do I find my passion?’
There are several layers to this from my perspective but I think it’s one of the red herrings embedded into the psyche of Western culture i.e. that I have to find my passion or purpose.
That is not my experience.
Passion is a state of being, it’s where you are giving your attention 100% to something. The truth is you can bring passion to anything, now.
Yes, even your work if you ‘hate’ it…
Yes, even your relationships…
Yes, even the business or team that is doing your head in…
“If you want to change the world, who do you begin with,
yourself or others?”
– Alexander Solzhenitsyn
“I’ve had enough of these tech companies. They all say they’re going to change the world but most are just full of it.”
So said someone to me recently, who’s business is all about dealing with tech companies.
They went on to tell me that many of the tech CEOs they were dealing with all had the same mantra of ‘We’re going to change the world’ – but in their opinion a lot of them would mess up the world if they succeeded and indeed, they were already messing up the people around them with the way they were behaving.
Perhaps they feel the need to ‘big up’ what their company is doing to attract talent or investors. Or maybe it’s their ego.
But just like we’ve all become de-sensitised to cold calling insurance salespeople, it seems to me that we’ve all become de-sensitised to the ‘changing the world’ mantra.
It seems to me that the world seems to be set up to keep ‘the music’ stuck inside people.
We can be so focused on what the world tells us is ‘success’ that we lose sight of our own unique expression.
Sometimes letting your music out might mean a complete re-invention. Sometimes it just means showing up more as the real you in your life.
A favourite quote of mine is from Shakespeare “To thine own self be true”, but the truth is that this can be hard in a world that is conditioning you to do the opposite.
“Sound when stretched is music.
Movement when stretched is dance.
Mind when stretched is meditation.
Life when stretched is celebration.”
– Shri Ravishankar Jee
In my mid-twenties, I found myself in challenging mental waters and was lucky enough to have been connected with a skilful counsellor.
At one of our regular Friday sessions, he asked me this question:
“When do you learn most Shane? When things are good or when things are challenging?”
In my naivety, I answered “When things are good because mentally you’re calm and can take things in.”
My counsellor smiled and replied
“I think you’re confusing real learning with school learning.”
