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The 4 Letter Word That Saved My Dad

6 years ago my mother, Mary, asked myself and my siblings to come to the family home in Kilkenny, without our families.

My father had been ill and had recently endured several operations, so we feared the worst.

When we arrived, they told us that Dad (Jim), had been told to get his affairs in order because he only had a few weeks to live. As you can imagine, that was a very emotional weekend. And the following weeks were challenging as we waited.

Final Year Exams And Remembering A Key Lesson About Life

Circumstances don’t have to define us. It’s how we respond to circumstances that matters.

This year, you may have had to divert off the road you thought was the best one. You may even be going down a road you never knew existed.

Just remember, that if you really want to get somewhere, there’s always a way.

The key is to never stop believing and to keep taking steps.

– even if means going slowly.

A Way To Ease Suffering And Boost Your Clarity

I’ve had so many conversations over the last few months with smart people who have created serious and unnecessary suffering for themselves.

Unnecessary because it came down to a lack of understanding how we all work from the inside out.

In the past, I’ve created problems for myself that just weren’t real because I never stopped to explore if what I was thinking was reality…

And I’ve seen the same with clients over the years.

The F-Word Has Its Uses…

A few years ago, this accomplished business woman was in my office and she was hugely de-motivated because of the behaviour of her CEO.

They had, in their mind, behaved in a way that was against her values, and the way she liked to treat people.

As she explained her point of view, it did seem like she had a point.

And now she was questioning whether the business was the place for her future.

But that wasn’t the main problem.

How To Make Sense Of Change

Over the last week, I found myself doing some painting outside and for one section I had to clear away some cobwebs before beginning the work.

I didn’t give it any thought until the next day when I was walking by the same section and noticed that the beginnings of a small cobweb was in the very place I’d cleaned.

It made me reflect that nature truly is adaptive.

Are You Stopping For Water?

I took a week off at the start of July and for the first 3 days I couldn’t get over how much I slept. And it didn’t seem like I had a choice in the matter.

My body just needed rest.

And since then, most of the leaders I’ve spoken with have shared with me that their energy levels have been quite erratic and many of them have been more tired than normal.

I think it’s very understandable.

How To Get Beyond Limitations…

“There’s a few reasons why I don’t see it happening”

These were the words spoken by a smart woman I was working with a few years ago, in response to me asking if she thought she could ever be a CEO.

She was very convincing in her argument as to why she couldn’t get to the top spot.

But it turned out that despite her comments she actually had a huge desire to get to the role.

How To Make A Better Future

What many people don’t realise is that optimism can be learned. And now is the time to step into it. (See ‘Learned Optimism’ by Martin Seligman)

What if you believed a much better future was coming? And that you could help create it?

We need to be in touch with reality. But we also need to be positive shapers of the future.

How not to be like Normal People…

Unless you’ve been living under a rock, you’ve most likely heard of ‘Normal People’, the Irish drama based on Sally Rooney’s best-selling novel.

The BBC series of the book has become a smash hit around the world, breaking all sorts of records. For example, the new series received 16.2 million views in it’s first week on the BBC streaming service. The opening week record was previously held by the first season of Killing Eve, which received 10.8 million total requests in its first week.

I wasn’t going to watch it until a friend of mine I wouldn’t have expected to like it, said he really did. So I was curious.

A Personal Note

I’ve written before about our family dog, Sparky, who had anxiety separation whenever he lost sight of my wife, Judy.

Unfortunately for us, he came to the end of his journey on this planet last Friday. It was clear he was really struggling and he took a bad turn in the early hours of Friday morning.

So we made the decision as a family to send him to sleep.

If you’ve ever had a dog you really loved, I’m sure you know how tough that is.