Without realising it we can let ourselves become victims to what we think is reality.
The New Year is a funny time. Often how you see it is very much on where you’re at in your life and how your state of mind is.
“Within you there is a stillness and sanctuary to which you can retreat at any time and be yourself.” – Hermann Hesse.
It was during that 5 minutes that I caught myself internally seeking to keep things moving. When Cubby stopped, my inner voice told me I didn’t have time for this. But in this case that wasn’t true.
It’s important to note that it has been proven that the placebo effect (the effect of believed thoughts on the body) is very much a real thing.
In my experience, when you try to achieve something great or important to you, there is something inside you that rises up.
I call it the ‘Inner Procrastinator’, and it’s usually a deadly quiet assassin of great results and a better life. It’s also incredibly clever and subtle, presenting you with super excuses to avoid what you know, deep down, you want to do.
The reality is that no-one can control how things unfold. And certainly, it seems that the entire world is getting a lesson in this right now.
Things going wrong is another way of saying “I don’t like this”. And because we feel what we think, that is the start of how stress and misery is caused. But, while we can’t control how the world unfolds, we can control our response to it.
I’m lucky in that I’m a fan and practitioner of acting, a love I inherited from my mother. One of my earliest memories as a child is sitting in a theatre hall in Kilkenny, watching her and her fellow actors rehearse their upcoming shows.
6 years ago my mother, Mary, asked myself and my siblings to come to the family home in Kilkenny, without our families.
My father had been ill and had recently endured several operations, so we feared the worst.
When we arrived, they told us that Dad (Jim), had been told to get his affairs in order because he only had a few weeks to live. As you can imagine, that was a very emotional weekend. And the following weeks were challenging as we waited.
Circumstances don’t have to define us. It’s how we respond to circumstances that matters.
This year, you may have had to divert off the road you thought was the best one. You may even be going down a road you never knew existed.
Just remember, that if you really want to get somewhere, there’s always a way.
The key is to never stop believing and to keep taking steps.
– even if means going slowly.
My wife was telling me she’d heard a renowned psychologist, Dr.Edith Eger, talking on the radio last week.
She was a survivor of the Auschwitz concentration camp during the holocaust and had endured severe traumas over her life.
But she had built a successful career as a therapist, speaker and writer in the US, around helping others overcome trauma and making the most of their lives.