“It is not for me to judge another man’s life. I must judge, I must choose, I must spurn, purely for myself. For myself, alone.”
-Hermann Hesse, Siddhartha
I was chatting to someone after a dinner party recently and this person was remarking how ‘such and such’ was much nicer than they thought they would be. That is, they’d pre-judged what the person was like before they actually knew what they were like.
Who isn’t guilty of that?
Yet maybe, we need to catch ourselves when we make these judgements in the moment. Because maybe we’re missing out. I remember being paired off with someone in a workshop, who I thought was the least compatible person in the room. How wrong I was, and how glad I am I met them. But that only happened because I was forced to. Since then, I make a point of engaging with everyone regardless of what my mind says about them. It is sometimes right, but it’s very often wrong.
So maybe watch your ‘judgement filter’ this week – it could be a factor in how people interact with you…