Circumstances don’t have to define us. It’s how we respond to circumstances that matters.
This year, you may have had to divert off the road you thought was the best one. You may even be going down a road you never knew existed.
Just remember, that if you really want to get somewhere, there’s always a way.
The key is to never stop believing and to keep taking steps.
– even if means going slowly.
I’ve had so many conversations over the last few months with smart people who have created serious and unnecessary suffering for themselves.
Unnecessary because it came down to a lack of understanding how we all work from the inside out.
In the past, I’ve created problems for myself that just weren’t real because I never stopped to explore if what I was thinking was reality…
And I’ve seen the same with clients over the years.
My wife was telling me she’d heard a renowned psychologist, Dr.Edith Eger, talking on the radio last week.
She was a survivor of the Auschwitz concentration camp during the holocaust and had endured severe traumas over her life.
But she had built a successful career as a therapist, speaker and writer in the US, around helping others overcome trauma and making the most of their lives.
A few years ago, this accomplished business woman was in my office and she was hugely de-motivated because of the behaviour of her CEO.
They had, in their mind, behaved in a way that was against her values, and the way she liked to treat people.
As she explained her point of view, it did seem like she had a point.
And now she was questioning whether the business was the place for her future.
But that wasn’t the main problem.
Over the last week, I found myself doing some painting outside and for one section I had to clear away some cobwebs before beginning the work.
I didn’t give it any thought until the next day when I was walking by the same section and noticed that the beginnings of a small cobweb was in the very place I’d cleaned.
It made me reflect that nature truly is adaptive.
I took a week off at the start of July and for the first 3 days I couldn’t get over how much I slept. And it didn’t seem like I had a choice in the matter.
My body just needed rest.
And since then, most of the leaders I’ve spoken with have shared with me that their energy levels have been quite erratic and many of them have been more tired than normal.
I think it’s very understandable.
One of the more heartening things I’ve seen over recent days was the report around the knighting of Captain Tom Moore in England.
The 100-year old was recognised by the Queen for walking more than 100 laps of his garden in Bedfordshire.
For this, he started a crowd-funding campaign looking to raise several hundred pounds for NHS charities and ended up raising over £32 Million!
If you’re Irish you’ll know that someone special to Irish people everywhere left the planet over the weekend – Jack Charlton.
For those reading this that have never heard of him, Jack was an English coal-miner’s son who became a professional footballer and won the soccer World Cup with England in 1966.
It can be difficult to talk about gratitude in a business context.
I think it’s because it’s seen as a soft skill but also business is usually a lot about solving and preventing problems.
And when you’re consumed with problems it’s easy to be consumed with everything that’s ‘wrong’, which kind of makes the whole gratitude thing more difficult…
Last Thursday something happened that brought a lot of joy to some of my friends and clients.
Liverpool became the champions of England’s Premier League soccer competition for the first time in 30 years.
For them it has been the longest of waits.